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Grief, Divorce, and Life Transition Support: Questions Answered

Life Transitions and the Stage Model

DeeplyHeard uses a six-stage framework based on what people in grief communities actually report experiencing: Just Starting, Early Days, A Few Months In, Finding Footing, Rebuilding, and Thriving. Unlike the traditional five-stage Kubler-Ross model, these stages are not a fixed sequence. Most people move through them in waves, revisiting earlier stages as circumstances shift. You can read more in our article on the 6 stages of grief.
Grief does not have a fixed timeline. Most people describe a gradual easing over months and years rather than a definitive ending. The intensity and frequency of acute grief tends to decrease over time, but grief rarely disappears entirely. Many people describe it as something they grow larger around, rather than something that shrinks.

Research and lived accounts suggest that most people need two to four years for substantial emotional integration after a significant marriage ends ( Ahrons, 1994; Hetherington, 2003). The first year tends to be the most acute. This varies based on the length of the relationship, whether children are involved, financial circumstances, and the strength of your support network. There is no failure in moving slowly through something this significant.

Yes. Divorce involves real loss: a relationship, a version of the future, a shared life, often a piece of your identity. Grief is a proportionate response to significant loss, regardless of whether the divorce was your decision or the relationship was unhealthy. Feeling grief does not mean the divorce was the wrong choice.

The five-stage model (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) was developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in 1969 to describe terminally ill patients. DeeplyHeard's six stages describe the lived experience of people navigating grief and other major life transitions, from the acute early phase through rebuilding and integration. Neither model is a rigid sequence that everyone follows in order.

Getting Started

DeeplyHeard is a private, stage-matched self-guided support companion for people navigating major life transitions: divorce, grief, job loss, serious illness, new parenthood, recovery, empty nest, and financial crisis.
About three minutes. A short quiz places you in the right space by life event and stage. There are no wrong answers, and you can change your stage at any time.
Yes. A free account is required to access your space, journal, mood tracker, and other tools. You only need an email address and a password. No real name, no social login, no phone number.
Yes. DeeplyHeard is free to use. There are no premium tiers, no paywalled features, and no advertising.
You decide. A short quiz at sign-up asks a few questions about where you are in your experience. Your answers suggest a starting stage, but you confirm it. There are no wrong answers, and you can change your stage at any time. No explanation needed.
No. DeeplyHeard is a self-guided support companion, not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. If you're working with a therapist, DeeplyHeard can be a complement to that work, not a replacement.

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Privacy & Safety

Yes. Your journal, mood logs, and milestones are only visible to you. Your username is the only identity associated with your account - your real name, email, and any other identifying information are never shown anywhere on the platform.
Never. We collect only what is necessary to run the platform. We do not sell, share, or license personal data to third parties. You can read our full Privacy Policy at deeplyheard.org/privacy for the complete picture.
No, by design. Social login connects your account to a third-party identity provider, which conflicts with our privacy-first approach. We use email and password only.
Account deletion is immediate. All your data (journal entries, mood logs, milestones, and personal information) is removed within 24 hours. There is no waiting period and no ability to recover a deleted account.

Complicated grief - now formally called Prolonged Grief Disorder in the DSM-5-TR (2022) - is characterized by intense grief that significantly disrupts daily life for more than 6 months after a loss. It affects an estimated 10 to 15 percent of bereaved people. Signs include persistent yearning, difficulty accepting the loss, feeling that life is meaningless without the person, and an inability to engage in normal activities. If this sounds familiar, a mental health professional can help assess whether professional support is warranted.

No. DeeplyHeard is a self-guided support companion, not a crisis intervention service and not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you are in crisis, please contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988, or go to your nearest emergency room.
Please reach out for immediate support. Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day. You can also text HOME to 741741 to reach the Crisis Text Line, or go to your nearest emergency room. DeeplyHeard is here for the ongoing journey, but right now, please talk to someone who can help immediately.
No. We do not share user data with employers, insurers, or any third party. If you access DeeplyHeard on a work device or network, your employer may be able to see that you visited the site, the same as any website. For full privacy, use a personal device on a personal network.

Your Space

Each life event has six stages, from Stage 1 (Just Starting) through Stage 6 (Thriving). Stages represent where you are in your journey, not how well you are doing. You can move between stages at any time, in any direction.
Yes, at any time. Go to your profile settings and select a new stage. You're not locked in, and moving stages doesn't reset anything. Your journal, mood logs, and history stay exactly as they are. If you're between stages and not sure, pick the one that feels closest. You can always adjust later.
Yes. Resources, Guided Journeys, and daily reflection prompts are all filtered to your life event and stage. As you move through stages, what you see shifts with you.

Tools & Features

Completely. Your journal entries are only visible to you. No other users or staff can read them. They exist solely for your personal process.
A simple daily check-in where you rate how you are feeling on a 1–5 scale and add an optional note. Over time, it shows your emotional landscape across the weeks and months of your journey.
Milestones are moments worth recording: the first time something felt easier, a conversation that helped, a day you got through something hard. They form a private timeline of your journey that you can look back on.
Guided Journeys are structured programs, typically 21 to 30 days, with daily prompts and exercises designed for specific life events and stages. They are optional and self-paced. Guided Journeys are filtered to your life transition. You'll see programs designed specifically for your situation, plus universal programs that work for any transition.
Once a week, the Weekly Reflection pulls together your recent journal entries, mood logs, and milestones into a single private summary. It gives you a way to see your week at a glance: what you wrote, how you felt, and what you marked as worth remembering.

Your Account

Yes. You can update your username in your profile settings at any time.
Nothing. Your account stays exactly as you left it: journal entries, mood logs, milestones, all of it. There's no activity requirement, no timeout, and no penalty for taking a break. Come back whenever you're ready.
Each account supports one active journey at a time. If you are navigating multiple transitions, focus on the one that needs the most support right now. You can start a new journey after completing or graduating from your current one.
Graduation is a way to mark the end of an active journey when you feel ready to close that chapter. It does not mean you are "fixed" or that the event no longer affects you. It simply acknowledges a transition in your relationship to it.

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